I did something a little unusual this week when I shared this photo on FaceBook.
With this photo I included the following message:
I don’t normally post these types of pictures on my personal page. But after some people telling me that I couldn’t do it and I’d never loose my belly after baby # 3 I thought I’d share. Left is 1 year ago – 7 weeks after I had my little man, the right is this morning.
I still have work to do, but I’m really not focusing on belly size or weight loss. My goal is to be able to actually run 10K without walking. But more importantly I’m teaching my kids how to be active – this mornings workout was completed with the baby screaming beside me because I wouldn’t pick him up.
I received a huge outpouring of support, congratulations and well done. And while I appreciate all of those, and some comments brought tears to my eyes, that wasn’t my reason for sharing it.
It really sucks when someone says you can’t do something – especially if that someone is a person who is close to you or is a person you respect. The great thing is they don’t get to decide if you can do something or not, you do. While it may be hard to push their comments aside, you CAN do it and succeed at anything you choose. It may not be easy, there may be tears, there may be failure along the way, but if you truly want to do it you can. Whether it’s baby weight, your new job, starting a new business – you CAN do it, and the only person who matters in believing in you is YOU.
Lets use my photo above as an example. Did you notice the dates? 1 whole year. 365 days. This was not an overnight “miracle”. And I didn’t expect it to be. If you know me at all, or have read any of my other posts about pregnancies, then you know that I’m a firm believer of 9 months on, 9 months off for baby weight. Sometimes longer. Heck, I still have “baby weight” from my daughter who is almost 6. Let’s be honest though, at some point it stops being “baby weight”. I had a few people message me to ask me how I did this, so I thought I’d let you in on my secret. Are you ready?
My secret is that I enjoyed my life. I didn’t do anything special. I don’t have a gym membership, so I went for walks and found videos on YouTube. I didn’t cut anything out of my diet. I’m still eating carbs, still have cream AND sugar in my coffee each morning, and I even had a piece of cake at both of the birthday parties I went to this past Saturday. Yes, 2 pieces of cake in one day. Gasp! Seriously though – I try to walk or
run jog almost every day. And not a leisurely stroll, I walk at a good pace. I’ve been being more conscious of WHAT I’m eating – ensuring that I’m getting enough fruits and veggies in and trying really hard to get my protein in. I don’t eat very much meat at all, so protein is a challenge for me. And drinking water.
I mentioned that the reason I do this isn’t about weight, or my size, but to show my kids that they can be active. It’s also to show them that things don’t just happen over night. Sometimes you have to work hard for them. I truly hope that is what they take from this journey, and not that mom lost “X” pounds. I do have a little secret to share with you though – I say that this isn’t about weight loss for me, and it’s not. BUT because I’m stubborn and I refuse to take my rings to get them re-sized, I would like my fingers to get a little thinner so I could wear my wedding band and engagement ring again.
So when someone tells you that you can’t do something, you have 2 choices. You can listen to them and give up. Or you can choose to use their words as motivation to get your ass moving and prove them wrong. Which will you choose?