It Can be Done

I did something a little unusual this week when I shared this photo on FaceBook.

With this photo I included the following message:

I don’t normally post these types of pictures on my personal page. But after some people telling me that I couldn’t do it and I’d never loose my belly after baby # 3 I thought I’d share. Left is 1 year ago – 7 weeks after I had my little man, the right is this morning.

I still have work to do, but I’m really not focusing on belly size or weight loss. My goal is to be able to actually run 10K without walking. But more importantly I’m teaching my kids how to be active – this mornings workout was completed with the baby screaming beside me because I wouldn’t pick him up.

I received a huge outpouring of support, congratulations and well done. And while I appreciate all of those, and some comments brought tears to my eyes, that wasn’t my reason for sharing it.

It really sucks when someone says you can’t do something – especially if that someone is a person who is close to you or is a person you respect.  The great thing is they don’t get to decide if you can do something or not, you do.  While it may be hard to push their comments aside, you CAN do it and succeed at anything you choose.  It may not be easy, there may be tears, there may be failure along the way, but if you truly want to do it you can.  Whether it’s baby weight, your new job, starting a new business – you CAN do it, and the only person who matters in believing in you is YOU.

Lets use my photo above as an example.  Did you notice the dates?  1 whole year.  365 days.  This was not an overnight “miracle”.  And I didn’t expect it to be.  If you know me at all, or have read any of my other posts about pregnancies, then you know that I’m a firm believer of 9 months on, 9 months off for baby weight.  Sometimes longer.  Heck, I still have “baby weight” from my daughter who is almost 6.  Let’s be honest though, at some point it stops being “baby weight”.   I had a few people message me to ask me how I did this, so I thought I’d let you in on my secret.  Are you ready?

My secret is that I enjoyed my life.  I didn’t do anything special.  I don’t have a gym membership, so I went for walks and found videos on YouTube.  I didn’t cut anything out of my diet.  I’m still eating carbs, still have cream AND sugar in my coffee each morning, and I even had a piece of cake at both of the birthday parties I went to this past Saturday.  Yes, 2 pieces of cake in one day.  Gasp!  Seriously though – I try to walk or run jog almost every day.  And not a leisurely stroll, I walk at a good pace.  I’ve been being more conscious of  WHAT I’m eating – ensuring that I’m getting enough fruits and veggies in and trying really hard to get my protein in.  I don’t eat very much meat at all, so protein is a challenge for me.  And drinking water.

I mentioned that the reason I do this isn’t about weight, or my size, but to show my kids that they can be active.  It’s also to show them that things don’t just happen over night.  Sometimes you have to work hard for them.  I truly hope that is what they take from this journey, and not that mom lost “X” pounds.  I do have a little secret to share with you though – I say that this isn’t about weight loss for me, and it’s not.  BUT because I’m stubborn and I refuse to take my rings to get them re-sized, I would like my fingers to get a little thinner so I could wear my wedding band and engagement ring again.

So when someone tells you that you can’t do something, you have 2 choices.  You can listen to them and give up.  Or you can choose to use their words as motivation to get your ass moving and prove them wrong.  Which will you choose?

 

 

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Friday Fitness Week 2

Started the week really well and then fell off the wagon.  I’d like to blame the cold, icy, snowy weather that arrived, but I know that’s just an excuse.  I could have easily gone to the mall to walk, or done an extra walking video at some point during the day.  I’m not going to let it get me down though.  We all have ups and downs.  I was still fairly good with my eating habits – it was just my exercise that sucked.  Next week is a brand new week to get back to it.

2016 Fit Friday Week 1

I thought I’d spend Friday’s sharing a little update into our new fit family.  If you’ve been following me then you know I had baby #3 thirteen months ago.  I dropped my baby weight from him in about 8 or 9 months, but I still have some weight to loose.  You may also know that I’m a runner though I loose that term loosely.

I own a FitBit and have a group of friends who challenge each other each week.  I wasn’t the winner of the workweek hustle last week, but I did come in second and managed to hit my goal of 10,000 steps each day.  Yay me!  That might not sound like much, but it’s been a while since I accomplished that.  Last week was a BEAUTIFUL week here in southwestern Ontario so that meant that my little man and I could go for a walk after we dropped the other 2 at school.  And with a view like this beside their school, who wouldn’t want to go there?

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Along with my daily walks I also choose to start the Bikini Body Mommy 90 Day Challenge (Here’s the very first video in her series).  I love this series because I can do it at home after the kids go to bed.  I don’t have to worry about hubby being home so I can go to a gym, or worry about child care at all.  Let me tell you, this is not an easy workout though.  I had my ass kicked every single day.  It really does prove how out of shape I am.  Do you know what gave me the strength to not give up during those workouts?  It was my 5 year old daughter asking me why I couldn’t do the exercises as fast as Brianna (the woman in the videos), and her asking me why the woman in the video didn’t have a fat belly like I did.  There is NOTHING to get you moving like the honesty of a child.  That and the fact that I want her to see me succeed.  I want her to know that even when you want to quit, you need to keep going – not just with exercising but in many things in life.  I want her to know that things aren’t always as easy as they seem, sometimes you really do need to put your blood, sweat and tears into it.  Literally.

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I mentioned earlier that I’m a runner.  This quote above suites me perfectly.  (I forget where I found it so please excuse the lack of credit for it.)  Well I’d like to be a runner.  I’m more of a jogger.  No let’s change that to a “wogger” – more on the walking end than the jogging end.  I’d really like to change that this year and be able to actually run an entire 5K.  I don’t think I can even run 1K right now.  I have a nice little 5.5K route that I’ll be walking and working on extending how far I can run on it.  I’ll also be completing a few 5K’s this year, at least one 10K, and I may even challenge myself to a half marathon.  We’ll have to see how my training goes.  One of the best things about my runs, is that my kids often want to join me.  I tend to take them on separate runs because of their abilities.  When my 8 year old joins me it means that he pushes me out of my comfort zone to run farther and faster.  When my 5 year old joins me I ensure it’s for a more leisurely day as she isn’t nearly as fast as her brother yet, thought I’m sure with time she will be. Taking them individually is also a great way to get some one on one time with them, something they don’t often get with 3 kids in the house.

 

**Any and all references to any type of exercising are what work for me.  I am in no way a fitness expert or certified for giving any type of advice.**

Journey to a Happy and Healthy Me

After my post about a week ago about about some changes I want to make, I decided that it was finally time to share this one.  This is a post that I’ve had saved as a draft for quite a while.  Every so often I’d go in and tweak it.  Or totally change things.  Even the title has changed many times.  A few times I almost deleted it.  But I’ve chosen to move forward with it.  Before you read any further though, you need to know that what I write, I write about me.  What’s best for me.  What I am choosing to do.  I am not giving advice – I’m certainly not qualified to.  I am in no way saying that others shouldn’t do what they feel is best for them.

Something changed in me when I was pregnant with my last child last year.  I realized that I really didn’t care anymore.  I didn’t care what others thought of me.  I didn’t care what society said I should do or be like.  What I did care about was that my children grew up healthy and happy with themselves.  And in order for them to do that I had to show them how.  And not just show them how, but actually BELIEVE it in myself.  I want them to be confident in who they are and whatever they choose to do.  That’s probably around the same time that I started paying more attention to all those positive self image ads that are around.  This one popped up in my FB news feed this week and I LOVE it – well the message, not necessarily the product they are selling.  lol.

Women are CONSTANTLY told how they should look.  And if they don’t look like that they should feel bad about it.  It has taken me YEARS to not only realize, but finally accept that I will never be a size 4.  Well at least not without some serious help that would include cosmetic surgery that I’m not interested in.  My body just isn’t built that way – even after you take away all of my fat layers.  I’m finally ok with that.  And do you know what?  I don’t want to be a size 4.  or 2.  or 6.  Numbers on a scale are just that – numbers.  And that same number can look different on everyone.

These women all weigh 154 lbs. or 11 stone. This is the average in the UK.

It’s not just appearance that women are given a hard time about.  We are also given a hard time about how we raise our kids.  If we choose not to breast feed we’re a horrible mother.  If we choose to breast feed well beyond a year we are a horrible mother.  If we baby wear we’re horrible.  If we don’t wear our babies then we’re not bonding.  If we put them in daycare we don’t love them enough.  If we keep them home we don’t socialize them enough.  If we put them in soccer, piano, dance, and hockey they’re too busy and don’t have time to be a kid.  If we don’t put them in anything we’re not expanding their horizons.  If we take them to McDonald’s we’re introducing a world of bad habits.  If we don’t take them to McDonald’s we’re denying them.  We can’t catch a break!

So I’ve decided that I really don’t care what others have to say, I’ve decided to start on a new journey for ME.  I thought I would share with you what my journey is going to be like.  Part of the reason I’m sharing this is to keep me accountable.  Part of the reason is so that I can show my children at some point that it is ok to do something for yourself. And part of my reason for sharing is to possibly give someone else that little boost to do something similar themselves.

The first part of my new journey is to try to disassociate with people who make me feel negative.  These might be people I know in “real life”, or they might be people I interact with on social media.  Some of these people you can’t get away from if they are co-workers or family members or the parent you see every day as you take your children to school.  But there are some that you can “get rid of” – unfriend them on Facebook, stop following their Twitter feed, NOT have coffee with them this week.  Other people’s negativity can rub off on you, and leave you not only feeling grumpy or frustrated, but can leave you feeling toxic as well.  That’s not going to help me on this journey to a happy and healthy me.  I’m looking for heath for my entire body including mental and emotional health.  So it’s time to say good bye to those Negative Nelly’s and not feel guilty about it.

The second part of my new journey has started a few times over the past few months.  I restarted this week and am determined to stick to it this time.  I have started following the C25K running app again.  This time I vow to keep going and not get discouraged and frustrated when I can’t run as long as I’m supposed to.  I have re-started following the Bikini Body Mommy 90 day challenges.  I’m starting with the first one this time.  I had started with the 4th one about a month ago, but was having a hard time with it.  Not because the workouts were too challenging, but because I started with 4 instead of 1.  It really bothered me.  I am attempting to choose healthier options to eat.  Though when I haven’t gone grocery shopping yet, it’s making it challenging.  I am choosing NOT to restrict what I’m eating.  I’m still going to enjoy all of those foods I like.  Like my large double double from Tim Horton’s this morning.  To be honest though the only reason I went to Timmy’s this morning is because I’m out of cream at home.  And the drive through sounded a lot better than taking my 10 month old out of the car and taking him into the grocery store.  Total laziness on my part.  This part of my journey is not to loose weight necessarily, but to encourage a healthy lifestyle.  If I shed a few pounds along the way great.  If I don’t, that’s ok too.  I’m not looking to give anything up, or be at the gym 5 hours every day.  Neither of those are what I want, but you better believe that I’m going to be enjoying a piece of cake for my husband’s birthday tomorrow.  Or 2.

The third part of my journey is to take more time for myself and be happy with myself and my choices.  I love my kids.  I love that I’m able to be home with them.  I love that my hubby is ok with me being home with them, but that also means that he works his ASS off at work.  Sometimes that means over time and not getting home until 10 or 11 at night.  So taking time for myself isn’t always as easy as it sounds.  I am trying really hard to get back to my paper crafting hobby.  It’s something I CAN do by myself but still be at home if hubby is working late or out of town.  It makes me happy and is a big stress reliever.  I’m also going to stop “listening” to all those nay-sayers about how we’re choosing to raise our children.  I’m going to stop feeling guilty about choosing not to nurse our children.  I’m going to enjoy ice cream for breakfast at McDonald’s with my daughter on our date (more about that below).

The fourth part of my journey is to share it with my kids.  They will come on the occasional run with me.  My 8 year old made the cross country team at his school this year and I have promised him that we will run in at least one race together this year.  I will re-introduce our “dates”.  For our dates each child decides what they want to do with me and we go do it.  It might be breakfast at McDonalds, or going to play laser tag.  It’s time that they get to spend just with me without competing with their sibling for my attention.  I’m going to make time to colour with them, and build lego with them.  I’m going to show them how to be happy and enjoy life even with all the stresses and shit that life can throw at you.

The fifth part of my journey is to document it.  Each and every week.  I’ll be using the My Crush book from Close to my Heart to document.  It has 60 pages, so I should be able to do the enitre year in there.  This is a great little book to document my runs, how we spent the day, motivational quotes, etc.  I’m also using one of these books to document my “40 by 40” challenge.  I’ve given myself a challenge to run in 40 races before I turn 40.  I need to get my butt in gear because I have less than 4 years to complete it and I think I’ve only done 5.  EEK!

Lastly I want to ensure that I’m enjoying life and believing in myself.  It’s too short to get hung up on the things you can’t change.  I want my kids to see that we’re enjoying life, and that we aren’t constantly worried about the “adult” stuff in life – bills, budgets, work, etc.  I want my kids to know that being healthy isn’t always about how you look.  There are so many other ways to be healthy too.  I’m going to continue to follow these amazing ladies on FaceBook as they make their changes to their lives.  They are taking totally different paths to what they want to accomplish, and I completely respect all of them.  I consider myself and my journey somewhere in the middle of theirs.  I love the motivation from all 3 of them and look forward to following their journey’s.  You can find Kristina at Decidedly Beautiful, Wendy at Passion for the Healthy Life, and Tara at Choose Happy.

While I’ve outlined quite a bit here today, there are still other parts of my journey that are missing.  I’m still not ready to share those yet.  Keep checking back those as I will share once it’s time.  I will also keep you posted with the progress of each of those goals of my journey.  🙂